Saturday, December 8, 2012

How to move on after ending a relationship?

Assalamualaikum and Hi everyone..

I personally think this entry is quite interesting. Betul tak? *perasan*  Ok, so a few days ago my friend called me and she cried. She said that she had broken up with her boyfriend. I don't know what else to say. But I kept on telling her "Sabar, you kena kuat". We're being friends since January 2012. Which means awal tahun ni lah kan? Hhaha.* Awat aku duk complicated kan benda ni.* Lol

So, back to our story. She kept on crying. I even stuck on my on words. Macam dah tak tahu nak cakap apa.. And I've said to her "I know how it feels, I penah rasa. Tapi you jgn sedih2" Aku ni dah macam limapuluhjutakali ulang ayat yang sama. Screw me. -.- But seriously, trust me. Korang akan rasa benda yang sama bila kawan korang menangis and macam mana nak jawab untuk bagi dia tenang kan? Hahaha Kang lelebih, takut salah cakap.

So, here my dearest friend. These are some tips that might help you. #Hope

1.) Let yourself feel

* Losing a relationship can feel like a mini-death, complete with a grieving process.
First you’re shocked and in denial. You don’t believe it’s over and you hold out hope. Next you feel hurt and guilty. You should have done things differently. If you did you wouldn’t be in this pain.Then you feel angry and maybe even start bargaining. It would be different if you gave it a second go. You wouldn’t be so insecure, defensive, or demanding.  Then you might feel depressed and lonely as it hits you how much you’ve lost.
Eventually you start accepting what happened and shift your focus from the past to the future.

2.) Remember the benefits of moving on.
* When you let go, you give yourself peace. 

3.) Do something-anything-for yourself
*Mulai sekarang, start cari something that you might addicted. Macam apa2 je. For example, blogging ni pun boleh jadikan sebagai satu activity harian. Korang bukan buat kerja tak betu punl, cuba buat cerita best2 kat blog korang mana lah tahu boleh jadi novelist ke suatu hari nanti. Meletop kan? Tiba2 ex korang datang balik. Hhahaha *Tiba2*

4.) Forget about what you can't do.
* Do not think negative, have a faith~

5.) Do not do any stupid or reckless things.
* Seriously, It won't turn him/her back. Sometimes, those (usually teenagers) bila putus cinta nak mati, nak mati, nak mati. I mean like, tak kesian ke kat mak ayah? Diorang susah payah besarkan korang. Then, bila korang dah besar. Pandai gatal nak bercinta. Bila putus di tengah jalan.. Korang fikirkan cukup lah sampai di sini. You were born without him/her, So when they left you. Korang pun boleh survive. Think!

6.) Use your time wisely.
* As now, you will have so much time to spent. So use your precious time wisely like lepak with friends and family. Because you know friends are always with you, kan? Jangan guna kan masa untuk berkurung dalam bilik. Meratapi nasib. It's totally wasted.

*Plus, We. As a Muslim. Jgn la sampai lepak dgn kengkawan sehingga melupakan Allah kan?

P/s: Hope you can use these tips as to moving forward in your life. Do not look back, Do not feel worry when you're single. Do not feel sad. This is just a matter of time. God knows what best for us.